Can Love and Freedom Have Both?
The “unmarried people”, as a product of modern society, are prevailing among a large number of young men and women of the right age.
They tend to have better incomes and are at the age of marriage, but they tend to avoid marriage.
Asked why, most people would answer: Don’t want to lose freedom.
What is the relationship between love and freedom?
The relationship between love and freedom is an interesting topic.
If love is free, then why does the nature of love really require concentration and commitment, these two words are neither romantic nor free.
If love is not free, why are so many loves full of passion, forgetfulness, chance, and miracles?
In the “Fashion Health” Psychological Summit Forum, I once said what is freedom-“Freedom means doing things without reason.”
Is love free?
Does love need a reason?
I forgot that one of the philosophers had said something like, “I love you but have nothing to do with you.”
For a person, love is an emotional tendency in the heart and self-pleasing.
Fans are crazy about idols. It has nothing to do with idols. As an existence, idols inspire people’s love. The will of idols is not important.
In “One Man’s Love” performed by Xu Jinglei, love is interpreted as free, and loving with idols in imagination is actually that people love themselves and make themselves cute because they love idols.
Let’s compare the feeling of love and freedom.
Feeling of freedom: no constraints, no purpose and no reason; feeling of love: focus on the emotions of the ground and be romantic and joyful at the same time.
Each sometimes runs side by side and sometimes separates from each other.
So, what can we do to make the two experiences converge more in parallel?
Because it is often when we lose our freedom that we admit that we were once free, and when we lose our love we realize that we have not cherished it.
So, to cherish, value, and cherish your love unconditionally is to obtain the freedom in love?
Pure love may be a platonic spiritual reality of people. It seems to be independent and free, but few people have no physical appeal to the loved in love.
Researchers of history know that in the Middle Ages, because of religious asceticism, love needed to completely strip off sexuality, otherwise it was impure.
Think of the Chinese Book of Songs, the Divine Comedy and New Life written by European Dante, sonnets, and haiku in Indian poetry, all expressing pure love.
“Romeo and Juliet” Why they are in love but haven’t even touched their hands. All the love in fairy tales ends with the beautiful combination of the master and the sweetheart.
If love is because of the need for sexual desire, then love is subordinate to the desire of the body, and it must not be free to have “subordinate”.
If love needs to suppress naturally occurring sexual and physical attachments, then it is not free.
Depressed desires will be tortuously released with words, poems, dreams, and fantasy full of symbols of sex. Such release is called love. Can you say that love is a kind of emotion derived from the inability of sexual desire to be achieved freely?
Marriage is another religion of abstinence. It requires commitment, responsibility, loyalty, and perseverance.
Marriage is external abstinence. Is this one of the reasons why marriage can hardly feel love?
Is it also one of the root causes of extramarital affairs?
It can be predicted that the love of people caused by religious abstinence, sexual separation has created the prosperity of human literature, modern people can no longer write these euphemistic and beautiful things, because modern people’s sexuality is too free, and sexual desire is alsoBe oversatisfied.
Getting free (freewheeling sex) loses love, and it’s hard to coexist.
Such a statement itself considers the separation of freedom and love in two situations, which is the result of an opposite, dichotomy.
I personally think that love is both free and unfree. Attempting to comprehend Buddhism and treat existence as “empty” or “real” is not appropriate. There is no such thing as “empty” or “real” in the world.Existence is unspeakable.
Love and freedom are also a unity of opposites.
If we look at it in the language of the physical symbol, the heart of the emotion-the heart-is the symbol of love.What I call “heart” here is not the brain (rational) or the heart (perceptual).
The heart is the only organ in the human body that can move and beat on its own, so love should be autonomous and free.
What is wonderful is that the heart that God gives to people has two ventricles and atria, and two beats and heart sounds. Does this imply that love requires two hearts to be intimate.
A person’s heartbeat speeds up in front of a beloved lover, and the heart loses its self-discipline. When two people begin to have a heart-to-heart relationship, the heartbeat becomes brisk and happy again, returning to the state of self-discipline.
The heart is two, and love is two. It is both free and not free.
When we have love, we feel that we are incomplete, not free, and love continues to face our own shortcomings, narrowness, selfishness, and timidity. With the encouragement of love, we grow and realize self-identity and unity.
It can be said that love starts from the acknowledgment of self-freedom and begins to return freely forward.